I've been so MIA from blogging lately, but that doesn't mean I haven't had a lot to blog about! One of the things I wanna make sure I cover is how it's been going in his big boy bed.
So the first few nights and naps were easy. I thought we hit the jackpot. Then, the struggle started.
We spent about the next week with him trying to get him to fall asleep. Whatever he requested, we'd do. It took me back to the newborn days when you're training your child to sleep, only now we're re-training him to sleep in a big boy bed. Same concept, different age. I kept telling myself not to cave and do the "bad" things; after all the hard work and consistency I put in during his first year, I wasn't going to screw it up with being lax and lazy about it now.
But this is how that week went: the routine was bath, 2 books, 2 prayers, then goodnight. What started happening was the bath took 30 min, 2 books turned into 6, and 2 prayers turned into 8. The whole process took well over an hour, from a mere 20 min. THEN, we'd finally shut the door and he'd climb out of bed and lay in the hallway with a collection of his blankets. The first night he went into the hallway, we didn't know it. I got up from the couch and saw him laying there and it
SCARED THE LIVING CRAP out of me. Eventually, we knew he was laying in the hallway but we were so tired of having to take him back to his bed and read more books and say more prayers (because we caved and did all that again), that he'd lay there for 30 min to an hour. Eventually he'd go to bed when we did.
Then I tried laying in bed with him. A big no-no, but I didn't know what else to do AND I was worried he might be scared of his new bed. I did that a few nights for 20 min or so and learned that he was not afraid at all and just wound up wanting to play. If anything good came out of that, it confirmed that he's NOT scared and I really needed to know that. :)
Steve started putting the gate up in his door way to keep him from coming into the hallway. That worked for a handful of nights, but he still wound up out of his bed and on the floor. We'd let him sleep on the floor all night. Eventually I felt bad and knew something had to change.
My friend Megan coached me on what to do and gave me the confidence that I'd lost along the past year to BE FIRM and STAND MY GROUND. If he gets out of bed, waste no time and go put him back. Don't read books, don't say prayers, just put him back into bed.
Soooo, that's what I did. It took a mere two nights of this and he was trained. The first night when he climbed out of bed, instead of pretending like I did't know and let him fall asleep on the ground, I went in there and put him in his bed, with a little struggle from him. I did that about 4 times that night in probably 6 min. :)
The next night he only climbed out twice. Since then, he started requesting "No Gate" and my response is, "I will only put the gate up if you climb out of bed" and he hasn't climbed out since!!!! *Let me note that when I say, "I" what I mean is, "we" because Steve was right by my side 100% of the way. He rocked it.*
Nap time was a lot easier throughout the whole process for some reason. But now we're golden with both nap and bed time. It took probably 3 weeks total for the routine to be back to about 30 min and he falls right asleep. Check that one off the list!!
I have a few things left to paint and hang in his room, so until that's done, I won't be posting the room pics. But here's a few to leave you with!